Lifestyle Yak

by Joy Weston

One of the things I love to do more than anything else is to learn something new, anything and everything that can improve my mind or my
Life. I read books, listen to tapes and web tele-seminars, subscribe to ezines—I have a great one at www.Put-Extraordinary-in-ordinary-with-Joy.com, and go to lectures and workshops. As I said, anything and everything that will put the Extraordinary in the ordinary…with joy!

Just recently I read an article that encourage me to look at what was fueling my engine to get my message out into the world, fame or a focus vision…and more importantly, did I understand the difference? After much thought, I concluded that I did, and I think it takes a bit of both.

Each of us is “famous” for something or another. Sometimes the qualities are less than admirable—procrastination, toxic energy, poor management of time or money…I think you get the idea. Others are famous for great accomplishments or talent, making a difference in the world or just for showing up in a new outfit at every club opening.

Then there are people who are famous for talking about or watching other people being more “famous,” than themselves. aka the huge success in reality shows. More people can tell you what The Survivors
or The Housewives of New Jersey are doing with their life than they can tell you what they are doing with their own lives. Pretty sad, don’t you think? Especially when this is the only life we get this time around.

Even though my children might have something to add to this, I’d like to believe that I am mainly famous for showing women how to put the Extraordinary in the ordinary no matter what the circumstances, which I am very proud of, considering the circumstances. In retrospect, I know I couldn’t have done that without having a laser focus on my grand plan.

A focus thought, the first part of The Formula in HOW AN ORDINARY WOMAN CAN HAVE AN EXTRAORDINARY LIFE: THE FORMULA FOR THE ART OF LIVING WELL, and it’s how we create the quality of our lives. Now infuse the power of believing behind your goals and visions, and you begin to understand how to put the Extraordinary in the ordinary.

By laser focusing on your dreams…focusing on the real reasons behind your desire for fame or fortune… taking the time to focus on discovering the Why you want to have what you want, is the real secret behind great success. Once you understand the real reason you want something, not the knee-jerk answer we robotically say when talking about our new business or project—aka “I want to have more money,
buy a bigger house, get a new car”—since these are all by-products of success, not what fuels your engine, you will be that much closer.

What fuels the engine is the understanding of the reasons behind wanting those things, such as financial freedom, more space to enjoy your family and friends, or even something as seemly shallow as wanting to show-off your hard work in a hot new luxury car. Bottom-line is it is the focused thoughts on the real reasons you want something that will keep you going when things go off course or get difficult…as they always do. Knowing your “Whys” sparks the fuel.

I am focused on the Why of turning women’s everyday ordinary lives
Into Extraordinary ones, through my lectures, seminars, workshops,
inspirational books, transformational audio series, and creating a huge change in the community of women. I even created a great non-profit organization at www.Pay-It-Forward-Angels-Network.org, which gives Free books to women in need, to help me hold the focus on my dream. Not for the fame, but for the satisfaction of knowing that my words could help another woman get through a difficult time. Now, what about you?

• Is being famous getting in your way of being focused?
If that’s your truth, I suggest that you take out a piece of paper or journal, and start writing all your reasons behind your desire for fame—it could be very interesting.

• Are you ready to figure out the Why behind your dreams?
Once again I suggest pulling out that pen and paper and start the process of listing on paper all the random thoughts swirling around your head—that’s the real trick. It opens your mind like nothing else.

• Is this the article that will start you living your dream?
I sure hope so, since time is a wasting, and what I do know for sure, is that the fastest way for anyone to put the Extraordinary in the ordinary, is to be living your dream. If it turns out that fame is behind your Why, then you should know that nothing makes others stand up and applaud more, than seeing someone living their dream.
Weston is a popular motivational speaker, internationally published author of the best-seller HOW AN ORDINARY WOMAN CAN HAVE AN EXTRAORDINARY LIFE: THE FORMULA FOR THE ART OF LIVING WELL, and the newly released IT’S JUST A GAME …IT’S ALL IN HOW YOU PLAY IT: A TRAVELHOLICS SEARCH FOR LIFE’S SIMPLE SECRETS AND THE DESSERT DU JOUR, and the facilitator of THE MIND OVER MATTER CHALLENGE BLUEPRINT AUDIO SERIES. For a FREE Audio Course on The 7 Must Haves for an Extraordinary Life- JoyWeston.com If you want to hear more go listen to Joy’s podcast on Lifestyleyak.com